Do you support interracial dating


17-Jan-2018 12:20

Alice, My question is about interracial relationships.

I came here from a really small town, very conservative — well, you get the idea. He treats me wonderfully but I still get odd looks from people and my parents really don't approve.

Dear Reader, It's great that you've found a partner who you love and treats you well!

Unfortunately, in today's world discrimination based on skin color, religion, class, ethnicity, sexuality, gender, and race still exists (and that’s just naming a few).

Black people are standing up and demanding to be seen, and to matter, in ways I have read about in history books, but have never experienced in my lifetime.

Whether we are talking about #themovementforblacklives or #sayhername, as a community we are requiring that our full humanity not only be recognized, but that safe spaces be created for the expression of that full humanity—whether good, bad, or ugly.

The fight that we are engaged in is debilitating and exhausting.

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You mentioned that the man you've been dating treats you well. Part of any healthy relationship is communicating about the things you find challenging in your lives — both together and apart.And in the words of Mama Toni Morrison, “Thin love ain’t love at all.” I absolutely stand with Mason’s demand that whites (and I’d add other people of color) stop loving us thinly.It is why, while I don’t object to interracial dating, I would require any non-Black person I date to be anti-racist, to do more than hint at not being racist or being “colorblind.” Author extraordinaire Marlon James does an excellent job of breaking down the difference between being non-racist and being anti-racist here; get into it.Of course, Black folks’ petition to take up space extends to the police who take oaths to serve and protect us, and the political leaders who are responsible for enacting legislation that will hold those who oppress and abuse us responsible, but our demands must also extend to those who claim to love us.

This notion of loving Black people radically is not a new concept, and loving Black people radically means more than just sexing us, partnering with us, or even creating family structures with us.If you are a Black person sleeping with a non-Black person who refuses to call Trump the insufferable bigot that he is, or a non-Black person who petitions that #alllivesmatter or #bluelivesmatter as a retort to the current Black struggle for human rights, you are sleeping with the enemy—or in the least someone who is an enemy of Black progress. Black folks, stop having sex with non-Black people who refuse to see you fully.



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