Fat and thin people dating
That fat women have things to say to other people about the relationships between their body types and their romantic lives barely seems to register on the larger cultural radar.Discussing the politics of desire takes major guts in our culture, especially as a fat person.I explained to the on-call psychiatrist that a major source of emotional distress was how other people were treating me because of the size of my body. Cut out potatoes, rice, wheat, and corn from my diet.Implicitly, he was confirming that the problem was me, not other people’s treatment of me. Holding other people accountable for how they treat fat people is still very taboo.This ideology pits the rational and the irrational against each other along with other corresponding binaries: the masculine and the feminine, the public and the domestic, the mental and the emotional, the mind and the body, the head and the heart.Even feminist, queer, and antiracist activists are often dismissive or cruel when people of size politicize their personal experiences.If we want to be treated better, we should stop being fat, right?
Vanessa was simply asking to have a dialogue with Louie and hold him accountable for his beliefs and his behaviors in relation to her fatness.
Fat people are told over and over that there simply isn’t enough space for fat bodies.
Of course, for me, there is no understanding of my own privilege, power, or identity as a middle-class, queer-ish, white woman that isn’t also about being a middle-class, queer-ish, white woman.
By extension, attempts to work through the politics of desire—already a topic met with hostility and derision—are especially difficult for fat people.
We have been trained in Western culture to think of the political and the intimate as polar opposites.
Her words were not merely personal, but also political. had overstepped his bounds, speaking for fat women while fat women’s own attempts at articulating their experiences have been mostly ignored.